I'm putting this here so I can remember what I want to tell her . . . the memory may have faded by the time she returns. I want her to know that in some ways, she has been the big sister I never had. In our UU Small Group Ministry, we discovered that our mothers were very similar(NPD). I remember after a brief sharing that revealed this, I suggested we have lunch together after our meeting, and we talked some more. It was remarkable how often each of us would say, "YES!!! That happened to me, too!" It was an incredible day. We both felt so connected.